I’m not the best person to give advice, on travelling without children. It’s been a VERY long time since my husband, and I, have gone on a vacation, without our children. For one, we LOVE travelling as a family. Our kids are great on the road and we love watching them experiencing and learning about new things and places. For two, it’s not easy leaving them behind with family, for a week. We feel guilty for leaving them out of an adventure, and for making someone else put up with all of their activities, and school work.
The result: we have travelled as a family for the last five years. During this time my husband and I have missed one key thing: we’ve missed the opportunity to strengthen our relationship.
We’ve missed out on the opportunity to act like the two selfish kids we were, when we first met. I knew this. I have been reading articles about couples needing time together, without the children, for years. I also knew we really needed more, than just a date night. It’s not very liberating, when you know you have a babysitter at home you have to get back to. You don’t get to feel free to do whatever you want with your spouse, for as long as you want! You can’t make big plans, you can’t both have a glass of wine, you can’t plan to go anywhere far.
There’s also a little fear that happens, when you plan to go on a plane or somewhere far away without your family. While it can be scary to think about anything happening, while you’re gone, it can also be thrilling to plan an adventure with someone you love. Not only can the trip itself be thrilling, but it can make your spouse seem much more thrilling and exciting to you too. Need I say more? You may not get as much sex as you would like, with kids of any age at home, but a week away gives you all the opportunity in the world to stay in bed all day with your partner. You can walk on the beach (if you go to a beach), jump out of an airplane, go zip lining, have romantic dinners, and make some very special memories to take home with you, to get you through your daily life, until the next trip!
Like I said at the beginning, I may not be the best person to advise you to take a vacation, without the kids, but, I do regret that my husband and I didn’t plan one sooner! It could make all the difference in your relationship, so my advice is to go for it, even if it’s just a night in a hotel in your own city. Do whatever you can to spend some quality time with your spouse, that’s more than just a date night. Stay tuned to my blog for the upcoming report on our trip to Puerto Vallarta and all the amazing adventures my husband and I fit in while we were there.